Do It Afraid!(Joyce Meyer)

I attended the Joyce Meyer’s Love Life Conference this weekend in St Louis, at the Edward Jones Dome. It was my first time attending any of her conferences. This was a women’s conference and it was huge!  I mean there were about 12,000 women present from all over the world….It was beautiful!...

Anyway, below is the summary of the message she gave on the first night of the conference. I am at a point in my life where I’m beginning to find my “niche’, my passion,….what really fits me…..I am more willing to try new thing but I am apprehensive at the same time….I am wondering what if it takes me completely away from what I’m used to…Well,I guess, I will have to find out…:)

Step.Out. and Try.Out.

We are all afraid of making mistakes.
Sometimes it's hard letting go of old things.
If you make a mistake,it doesn't mean you are a mistake.
Be Determined!
Whatever you do ,let your endpoint not be for self gratification or applause.
Sometimes you will not find your “calling” if you are not willing to try a few things.-Don't be afraid to try new things.
However,"not one size should fit all".What works for someone else might not work for you.
Somethings are right for a season.
When you finally doing what's right for you,you'll know it,…..and people around you will notice,as well..and you might get judged and criticized...
The older you get,the more important it is to wear something that fits,as opposed to what is popular…..So don't fit yourself into what doesn't work for you.

Let Your Voice Be Heard Against Terrorism and Fanaticism…!!!

The world is currently feeling the impact of the turmoil and unrest in the Middle-East and other parts of the world like Asia and Africa, caused by terrorism. We can no longer sit back and watch, we cannot allow a few individuals control and destroy our lives….We need to protect our future by lending our voices one way or the other-through social media, through governmental agencies etc…Fanaticism feeds terrorism…Speak up!

……Someone forwarded the email below to me and I thought I’d share….

The author of this email is Dr.Emanuel Tanay, a well-known and well-respected German psychiatrist.
A man, whose family was German aristocracy prior to World War II, owned a number of large industries and estates.
When he was asked how many   German people were true Nazis, the answer he gave can   guide our attitude toward fanaticism.
'Very few people were true Nazis,' he said, 'but many enjoyed the return of German pride, and many more were too busy to care.
 I was one of those who just   thought the Nazis were a bunch of fools. So, the   majority just sat back and let it all happen. Then,   before we knew it, they owned us, and we had lost   control, and the end of the world had come.
My family lost everything. I ended up in a concentration camp and the Allies destroyed my factories.
We are told again and again by 'experts' and 'talking heads' that Islam is the religion of peace and that the vast majority of Muslims just want to live in peace.
Although this unqualified assertion may be true, it is entirely irrelevant. It is meaningless fluff, meant to make us feel better, and   meant to somehow diminish the spectre of fanatics   rampaging across the globe in the name of Islam. 

The fact is that the fanatics rule Islam at this moment in history.   It is the fanatics who march.

  It is the fanatics who wage any one of 50 shooting wars worldwide.

  It is the fanatics who systematically slaughter Christian or tribal groups throughout Africa and are gradually taking over the entire continent in an Islamic wave.

  It is the fanatics who bomb, behead, murder, or honour-kill. It is the fanatics who take over mosque after mosque.
 It is the fanatics who zealously spread the stoning and hanging of rape victims and homosexuals.  

  It is the fanatics who teach their young to kill and to become suicide bombers.

The hard, quantifiable fact is that the peaceful majority, the 'silent majority,' is cowed and   extraneous.

  Communist Russia was comprised of Russians who just wanted to live in peace, yet the Russian Communists were responsible for the murder of about 20 million people. The peaceful majority were   irrelevant.

  China's huge population was peaceful as well, but Chinese Communists managed to kill a staggering 70 million people..

The average Japanese individual prior to World War II was not a warmongering sadist. Yet, Japan murdered and slaughtered its way across South East Asia in an orgy of killing that included the systematic murder of 12 million Chinese civilians; most killed by sword, shovel, and   bayonet.

  And who can forget Rwanda, which collapsed into butchery. Could it not be said that the majority of Rwandans were 'peace loving'?

History lessons are often incredibly simple and blunt, yet for all our powers of reason, we often miss the most basic and uncomplicated of   points:

  Peace-loving Muslims have been made irrelevant by their silence.

  Peace-loving Muslims will become our enemy if they don't speak up, because like my friend from Germany, they will awaken one day and find that the   fanatics own them, and the end of their world will have   begun.

Peace-loving Germans, Japanese, Chinese, Russians, Rwandans, Serbs, Afghans, Iraqis, Palestinians, Somalis, Nigerians, Algerians, and many   others have died because the peaceful majority did not   speak up until it was too late.  In Australia, and indeed in many countries around the world, many of the most commonly consumed   food items have the halal emblem on them.

  Just look at the back of some of the most popular chocolate bars, and at other food items in your local supermarket.

  Food on aircraft have the halal emblem, just to appease the privileged minority who are now rapidly expanding within the nation’s shores.

In the U.K, the Muslim communities refuse to integrate and there are now dozens of “no-go” zones   within major cities across the country that the police   force dare not intrude upon.

  Sharia law prevails there, because the Muslim community in those areas refuse to acknowledge British law.

As for us who watch it all unfold, we must pay attention to the only group that counts - the fanatics who threaten our way of life.

Lastly, anyone who doubts that the issue is serious and just deletes this email without sending it   on, is contributing to the passiveness that allows the   problems to expand.

  So, extend yourself a bit and send this on and on and on! Let us hope that thousands, world-wide, read this and think about it, and they also   continue to send it on - before it's too late.

And we are silent.....and then. . . silenced.
 

ACTS TEAM

Africa Centre for Theological Studies
3 Ike Asogwa Close
Off Bush Street,Anthony Lagos.

   

What Do You Want Out Of A Relationship?

This is sort of  a sequel to the post on marriage I wrote here about a week or so ago. The general vibe I get from different articles on relationship is this: The expectations of the male specie differs from that of the female specie.
There tend to be resentment,anger, frustration and sense of hopelessness when couples don’t understand each others wants and needs in a relationship.
Generally, men want :

• To be “ in charge”
• To be needed and at the same time want the woman to be self-sufficient/confident.
• A manipulation-free relationship.

Whereas,what women(regardless of age) want can be summed up to:

• Affection
• Appreciation
• Affirmation

I think men do want these things as well in a relationship but in different measure based on the age and stage in life.

Anyway,based on a random opinion poll I conducted among friends, some of the guys said they think because women are materialistic, women are in most relationships for monetary gain.I read a quote somewhere that says"When the wife is mute, she is cute and when the husband has money he’s honey”….Ouch!…Do you agree?

Another guy actually said he thinks giving a girl “too much” affection and appreciation is being a sissy.….I wonder what too much affection means…:(

The ladies I asked,however, think men are only after sex and a good meal….Hmmmmmm.

Regular COMMUNICATION is key. A relationship will sail or sink based on how open the people involved can communicate.

Never Say Can’t!

I just have to share this….

I hope it inspires someone as it has inspired  me….

Marriage: Ball and Chain?….

My husband and I had a discussion the other day about “What people want out of a marriage relationship”(That is a post for another day) and that was when the question “ Who benefits the more from a marriage relationship-the man or the woman”? arose….

While popular culture always points out that the man “loses" his independence  and financial stability (which is why they shy away from marriage), I am of the opinion that it is man that benefits more  in a marriage relationship, because of the following reasons: 

1. Marriage tends to give the man a sense of commitment and social responsibility, not only to his nuclear family but also to people around him, which leads to both financial/career success and achievements.

2.Typically, it is the woman that gives up or defers her career aspirations.The society subtly believes 

that the woman bears the most responsibility when it comes to raising a family.

3. In marriage, women bear a disproportionate share of the burden of pregnancies, child- bearing and childcare particularly in the early stages of marriage. They are also expected to continue to look cute and always sexy.

4. The woman is the one to give up her maiden name to take up the husband’s last name.

5. Studies have shown that ‘happily” married men tend to have longer life span than single men.

6. Men gain a readily available sex partner, …..or so one might assume….:)

However, women do benefit from marriage in the following ways: (this is not an exhaustive list) 

1. Studies have shown that women are more financially secure in marriage.

2. In a “happy” marriage relationship offers a woman more emotional support, which may insulate her from depression and anxiety which are twice as common in females as in males.

3. A married woman does not have to deal with the hassles of dating and the pressure from the society of being labelled single.

4. Research shows that married women have both higher frequency and  better quality sex lives.. 

However, I don’t think marriage should be viewed as a “business” partnership or a job contract. I think it is the mind-set of the 2 people in the marriage that determines the outcome of a marriage relationship…..