Are We Loving Our Sons and Raising Our Daughters?

The other day a friend I was having a discussion with a friend of mine about parenting, comparing how we were raised and how we are raising our children.We both came to the conclusion that we are more or less raising our children the way our parents raised us,particularly with regards to the disparity between raising a girl-child and raising a boy-child.
 We tend to put more effort into raising our daughters, teaching  them right from wrong, what they need to wear, say and behave,in order not to get harassed by men, as well as conform to the societies expectations. Whereas, boys don’t often get to be taught with the same intensity, especially with regards to how to treat women well, how to talk to women,how to value and appreciate people.
We tell girls :“don’t get raped” , instead of teaching the boys “don’t rape”. When boys/men do wrong, society tends to say things  like “boys/men will be boys/men” while the girls/women are “scolded” for not being virtuous or not setting good examples for their children.
Society say that “ladies are meant to seen and not be heard” while the boys are allowed to "raise their voice" on any issue without restraint.

Got this piece from an article ‘how to build a man” in the magazine Esquire:
We want them to know that contrary to what people say, chivalry and feminism are reconcilable. It is called “holding the door for everyone, giving a hand to whomever needs it, lightening the load. We want them to understand the weight that a simple word of kindness or encouragement can carry in another person’s life. To ask for advice even when they don’t think they need it.

Research suggests that loving dads help pass on faith to their children.

By Jim Daly of Focusonfamily.com

In a previous blog post by Jim Daly, he wrote about passing along a faith that lasts to ones children. That post focused on the most important thing parents can do: live out a vibrant faith themselves.

It turns out,the key to getting faith across to children has a lot to do with the fathers.

In a New York Times article  that ran earlier this year, Prof. Vern L. Bengston shared the results of original research that shows how important family bonds are to passing on the faith.

In other words, without emotional bonding, doing all the “right things” may be for naught.

As the professor put it:

Fervent faith cannot compensate for a distant dad. A father who is an exemplar, a pillar of the church, but doesn’t provide warmth and affirmation to his kid does not have kids who follow him in his faith.

It’s amazing how central love is to the “formula” of raising kids.

I came to the same conclusion as I thought through the themes in my most recent book, “The Good Dad.” In it, I wrote:

I’ve come to picture parents’ relationship with their children as something like a playground tetherball. You, as the parent, are the pole. You’re not going anywhere. Your child is the ball. And the rope connecting you – the tether – is the love you share for each other. Your mutual affection is what connects you.

Work is now the new "me" time for moms!!...

By Leslie Morgan Steiner  Modernmum.com

…….You know, hours on end when you can focus on your own goals, not your third graders' math homework; time for you to use your brain; uninterrupted stretches to write a report, study something, hold a meeting, or just plain old GET SOMETHING DONE.  And people there are  actually sometimes impressed with us and our abilities!

We stay home in order to retreat and recharge from the stresses of work, school, and crazy texting drivers on the highway, right?…….Once upon on a time that might have been true…...

The study, conducted by researcher Sarah Damaske at the Council on Contemporary Families, measured the cortisol of 122 workers of various socioeconomic levels at work and at home. Across the board, regardless of socioeconomic status or gender or whether or not they had kids, women reported lower levels of stress at work, while men reported lower levels of stress at home.

Think about it:

• What do we moms confess to each other each January, early September, and on the blessed Monday after Thanksgiving?

• Since when have school breaks, summer vacation, Thanksgiving, or Christmas, actually been any kind of vacation for moms?

Relief and joy, because the holidays-at-home-with-kids-and-husbands are finally over.

Holidays mean endless dispute resolution, extra cooking, tons of additional cleaning, all that gift-wrapping, and way too much relative entertaining.

And lots not get started on snow days and how RELAXING those are when you have kids who cannot be left home alone.

Last but not least, what about moms who are at home full-time? That’s the hardest job there is, because there is no escape. Moms are lucky enough to have jobs go to work to RELAX.

Work – there’s nothing like it for managing stress!

A working mom friend with small kids just got a break from weekends that, as her kids have grown into tweens, have become crazier than weekdays.  You know, the carpooling to soccer, the mind-numbing laser tag birthday parties, the need to channel Nurse Ratchet to get kids to fall asleep at sleepovers. Her husband took their three children camping for a night with a bunch of other dads.  (A horrifying prospect to me, but dads seem to like this kind of thing.)

I asked her how her weekend alone was.

I started to put on my sad face in case she said “lonely.”

"Heavenly," was her immediate answer. I had not heard her sound so enthusiastic since the first time she told me she was pregnant. She sounded like she had just discovered a long hidden new G-spot.

"What did you do?" I inquired, kinda jealous.

"Um, worked until midnight two days in a row!  It was GREAT."

She sounded blissfully content and utterly stressfree.

Maryland's New Sex Ed Proposal Will Shock You…...Homo-sexuality Sex Education in Schools…..No or Yes?

Sex education is in itself a very sensitive and controversial issue.

 In my opinion the Education department should not make it mandatory as it is made in some counties in the United States.
Making it  "homosexuality-friendly" is making the issue more controversial, because as we all know, everybody all over the world, have different views regarding homosexuality, and we are all entitled to our own opinion.
I think parents are to be allowed to make the decision when it comes to what they want their children and wards to be exposed to.

"If you need proof that same-sex "marriage" is about more than "love," look no further than Montgomery County, Maryland. There, parents are dealing with the fallout of the state's redefinition of marriage with a sweeping new sex education curriculum. Moms and dads, who were already fighting an uphill battle on the content of the lessons, are now coping with the news that homosexuality will be woven throughout - shattering families' fragile hold on parents' rights.

On May 18, the Montgomery County School Board took up the issue in a debate over the district's health curriculum. Not surprisingly, there were calls for an even greater emphasis on sexual orientation, as well as introducing the topic to students earlier than ever before. In the current curriculum, kids are asked to reflect on things like "the benefits of 'coming out,'" and the harms of "homophobia... which can he shown in mild ways like laughing at a gay joke."

"Children are not born hating. They learn to hate and fear from messages they receive while growing up," read one section. One of the proposed videos even includes a positive look at transgenderism. "Your sexual orientation cannot change," the text insists.

"If you were attracted to women, and all of the sudden, you're attracted to a man, it's because you just became aware of your true orientation." If liberals get their way, the indoctrination could begin as earlier as this fall with middle schoolers. For the County, the fireworks over sex ed are nothing new. Since 2005, parents have been in a tug-of-war over the content of the lessons, even going so far as to sue the state over the suggestion that homosexuality is innate.

In the meantime, curriculum like Montgomery County's is just the tip of the iceberg for the changes same-sex "marriage" will bring to a classroom near you. Like the ripples created when a rock is dropped in a pond, the ripples created by the redefinition of marriage will reach far into society. That's important for every American to understand, but especially libertarians who have yet to recognize that their "live and let live" mentality cannot work if our goal is to preserve liberty. Make sure you know how to spot these agendas in your district.

Culled from the Christian News